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  • How to start

    Writing the first post on a blog is really intimidating.  Where do you start?  So much pressure.  I am currently sitting in the lobby of my son’s therapist’s office listening to a babbling brook on the sound machine.  It’s our first try with this therapist, we have struggled to find the right fit for Matthew in this realm but I’m feeling great about this one.  She has two sons on the spectrum and that usually is the difference maker.  It means she just gets it.  What is “it”?  Well, it’s ALOT and It’s also the reason why I wanted to start this blog.  Having others who get “it” are our lifelines in a world where we feel like our struggles are just ours.  Matthew is in 5th grade and school has been a struggle every year but one, second grade.  Why was second grade special?  The teacher had a child on the spectrum and that familiarity with whatever “it” is was the secret sauce.  My son has a picture of that teacher he keeps in his room and still looks at fondly 3 years later.  She’s the one that he will think of when his kids ask him “Dad, who was your favorite teacher?” 

    My boys are twins and as a result they have never been alone.  This works in Matthew’s favor because the rebuff and misunderstanding of pre-teens in the school system is dark, but he craves a little solitude.  He has shared his space with his brother every single day for 10+ years so to have some time to yourself is a cherished gift to him.  To be completely honest while Matthew claims to have no friends and occasionally be bullied, I have found overall that a lot of the kids are kind and just let him be.  Has this generation evolved to a more understanding group who accept differences and see no gain in being cruel?  I’m not sure completely, and as we navigate middle school next year we will surely find out, but I like to think these kids have adapted for the better.  Even just a little bit. 

    I don’t feel like I have said much but I know that no one has the time to read much more than three paragraphs of anything these days, so I guess this is my first post.  I hope that sharing my experiences will help some of you in the way Mrs. Golden helped Matthew in 2nd grade.  Just getting “it” can go a long way

  • How to start

    Writing the first post on a blog is really intimidating.  Where do you start?  So much pressure.  I am currently sitting in the lobby of my son’s therapist’s office listening to a babbling brook on the sound machine.  It’s our first try with this therapist, we have struggled to find the right fit for Matthew in this realm but I’m feeling great about this one.  She has two sons on the spectrum and that usually is the difference maker.  It means she just gets it.  What is “it”?  Well, it’s ALOT and It’s also the reason why I wanted to start this blog.  Having others who get “it” are our lifelines in a world where we feel like our struggles are just ours.  Matthew is in 5th grade and school has been a struggle every year but one, second grade.  Why was second grade special?  The teacher had a child on the spectrum and that familiarity with whatever “it” is was the secret sauce.  My son has a picture of that teacher he keeps in his room and still looks at fondly 3 years later.  She’s the one that he will think of when his kids ask him “Dad, who was your favorite teacher?” 

    My boys are twins and as a result they have never been alone.  This works in Matthew’s favor because the rebuff and misunderstanding of pre-teens in the school system is dark, but he craves a little solitude.  He has shared his space with his brother every single day for 10+ years so to have some time to yourself is a cherished gift to him.  To be completely honest while Matthew claims to have no friends and occasionally be bullied, I have found overall that a lot of the kids are kind and just let him be.  Has this generation evolved to a more understanding group who accept differences and see no gain in being cruel?  I’m not sure completely, and as we navigate middle school next year we will surely find out, but I like to think these kids have adapted for the better.  Even just a little bit. 

    I don’t feel like I have said much but I know that no one has the time to read much more than three paragraphs of anything these days, so I guess this is my first post.  I hope that sharing my experiences will help some of you in the way Mrs. Golden helped Matthew in 2nd grade.  Just getting “it” can go a long way.